Talking to Seniors about Getting Help

Are you planning to spend time with your aging family members or parents this holiday season? For those that don’t live close, many may not realize your loved ones are in need of additional help around the house, with their health, etc. Introducing the idea of getting parents some help may be met with some resistance so it’s important to ap-proach the idea with patience and tact. 

Often times a little bit of help in caregiving can go a long way in keeping seniors in their home longer. If you think now is the time to address issues with family members, here are some ideas to consider to start the conversation with your loved one and family members from insideeldercare.com 

* What are the advantages for the senior to having help in the home? This is a good time to talk about the cost difference of moving into an assisted living facility, the bene-fit of staying in their home longer, and the added perk of having one-on-one care. 
* When talking to your aging loved one about the possibility of in-home care, remind them that this will maintain their independence in their home. Talk through scenarios of if they continue to live on their own without help - possibility of mis-management of medications, falls, etc. 
* If their spouse is still residing in the home, remind them how the help might benefit both of them. A caregiver could help with preparing meals, housekeeping, driving, etc. These are all things they may admit to not being able to handle, making them equally beneficial to both parents. 
* According to a recent study by Genworth, 55 percent of Americans say being a burden on their family is their biggest concern regarding long-term care issues. Turn the issue back on you, letting them know how much you worry about them and the financial or physical burden it is on you or rest of the family if you’re currently doing the caregiving. 
* Try to understand what are they afraid of. Is it independence? Financial worries? Feeling out of control? Also, check your own emotions before you start the conversa-tion and choose an appropriate time and place to start the discussion. 
* Another way to work in some respite or peace of mind for your family is to have a caregiving be on a trial basis maybe after a surgery, while you’re on vacation, or just over the winter. This may make them more willing to test the waters with a huge com-mitment. 
* Seeking advice from a professional can also help take off some of the pressure off your or siblings to make a decision for the parent. A primary care physician who the senior knows and trusts can help catapult the idea into a plan. 

It’s important to be sensitive and loving to those who are older and are needing help but having trouble accepting it. If you need help this winter or holiday season making sure your loved one is well-taken care of, be sure to reach out for services and organizations that can provide support for their mental and physical health. The peace of mind will be worth it. 
Emily Lambright is a registered nurse and owner of Embrace Your Health Home Services in the Coldwater/Hillsdale area specializing in diabetes management home care. The business also provides care to those that want to continue residing in their home but need some additional services and assistance, health coaching and lifestyles management for chronic conditions and heart disease. For more information, call 517-439-4119.